In his TEDx talk, Robert Hoge addresses the concept of “owning your face” through a deeply personal narrative. He begins by highlighting how societal pressures, including media and peer influence, often lead us to disown our own faces. Hoge shares his own experiences with facial deformities caused by a tumor that altered his appearance significantly from birth. His parents, initially struggling with his appearance, faced tough decisions about his numerous surgeries aimed at making him look more “normal.” Despite the potential risks, including a high chance of death or blindness, Hoge’s family ultimately chose to proceed with surgery.As Hoge grew older, he faced harsh judgments and bullying, which further impacted his self-acceptance. A turning point came when he was 14 and had to decide whether to undergo another major surgery. His brother’s comment—that being pretty isn’t worth losing one’s eyesight—helped him realize the importance of owning his face as it is, rather than conforming to societal ideals.Hoge concludes by reflecting on how owning one’s face is about choice. Whether through makeup, piercings, or other personal expressions, it’s about accepting and appreciating our own unique appearances. He urges us to embrace our faces fully, as they represent our experiences and identities.
